Loneliness means a lack of self. The stronger your relationship with yourself, the less alone you
will feel. Because we forget that even in loneliness we have our own support. We are all
different from each other. Some have many friends, some have few friends, some have many
people in their house, some have very nuclear family, some are very social and others don’t mix
much, some are extroverts and some are introverts. Some are alone in solitude and some are
alone in the crowd!
Loneliness is not feeling connected to anyone. It’s a feeling of alienation from those around you
for no reason. For some reason, the gap can be resolved, but not feeling connected to anyone for
no reason means not feeling supported, feeling like no one can understand me. Loneliness is also
a red flag. Understand that something needs to change.
Having meaningful relationships is very important. The world’s blue zones are home to some of
the longest-lived and happiest people, who (along with good habits) have sustained their
centenarian lives thanks to meaningful relationships. Sense of Belonging in society, feeling a
sense of belonging with those close to you, having a healthy social life is an important and
necessary part of being happy. Nowadays we spend a lot of time on the internet, not with each
other. Staying less connected with each other and more online. We constantly compare what
others have and what we don’t have, when we get a little time we take the phone in our hand, we
live life on the high side and thus get inferior, we lose ourselves in the game of likes and follows.
A man who is lost from himself cannot be attached to anyone. The stronger your inner grip, the
more grip you will have on other things. To have a sense of belonging, we must first know
clearly where we belong or should. Whenever you get a moment from today, look out the
window without the phone in your hand. Connect with trees, birds, animals, sky, and nature. Let
us first try to connect with this nature that we are made of.
Loneliness is not a lack of people around but is born out of aimlessness. A few years ago I asked
my mother, “Why don’t you ever feel alone?” She said, “I feel the constant companionship of
books, scriptures, and myself.” Feeling “low” is natural. But how long we stay involved in it is
important. When you get time from today, read a book without the TV or phone in hand. Instead
of spending time on entertainment, focus on self-development.
Sometimes hard times bring loneliness. But this difficult time can be a transition period for
innovation. What little trouble the chicks get out of the egg! No one can help him there, not even
his mother. He has to get stronger. The process of hatching from the egg enables and prepares it
for the next life. You may have to walk some steps alone but don’t forget that you have your
support.
Nowadays, despite all the diving, I feel like sitting alone and remembering my childhood!! When
everyone around me is in their own world… I feel like I should be in my own world!!… Calm!!…
Satisfied!! There is no rush to go anywhere… no competition with anyone… no need to show my
happiness and enthusiasm to others!!… Everyone says… I have changed a lot now!!…
And there is a reason for that….I has found true love at this stage of age!!… He has accepted me
with all my faults, my past… He is my true support system… and he will support me till the
end!!!…
Yes, at this age I am in love again!!!…Own (our Self)!!!
It is a beautiful thing that we love ourselves. We always talk about our relationships with others,
but we often don’t think about the relationship we have with ourselves. We owe ourselves
something. We have to demand something from ourselves. Ever thought about this voice of the
mind? Here the inner voice is not supposed to be our conscience. It is a separate compartment of
the mind… that keeps us true from the inside out. This is the voice that teaches us to live
happily. The one is who teaches us to love ourselves. Because once you fall in love with
yourself, life becomes beautiful.
Chetan Bhagat, the author of ;Tarunancha" while speaking to the IT students, has mentioned the
same in different words. He calls this feeling, keeping your spark alive. As long as this spark is
alive, you can live abundantly. Once that spark fades, life becomes a puddle. Therefore, to
maintain this spark, it is said that he should remove disappointment, depression and loneliness
from his life.
Think how many people at this moment are counting their last breaths and asking God for a
chance to live, which we have – don’t waste it!
Published by: Grace Ladies Global Writers Forum
On 29th March 2024
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